tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post3975454387934899360..comments2024-03-10T23:01:51.493-05:00Comments on Stupid Motivational Tricks / Bemsha Swing: Self-Acceptance Jonathanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09371893596402673898noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-70191989571422637242018-03-20T13:12:06.800-05:002018-03-20T13:12:06.800-05:00...and this is interesting: what I am terrified of......and this is interesting: what I am terrified of is what you call the radio. It is so incredibly deep, it's scary. But it's the radio.Leslie B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10020364290777579994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-33915631282435940232018-03-19T12:24:38.663-05:002018-03-19T12:24:38.663-05:00...I must have a robust ego since I am not afraid ......I must have a robust ego since I am not afraid to try and fail at these kinds of things.<br /><br />I am, however, terrified of losing everything and being on the street. I am afraid, for example, of being wrongly accused of some kind of nebulous malfeasance at work -- not anything concrete like embezzlement or sexual harassment or not showing up, but something unfair and unfounded and that isLeslie B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10020364290777579994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-79813153596346154012018-03-17T16:12:45.469-05:002018-03-17T16:12:45.469-05:00There's a lot ego protection involved too. If ...There's a lot ego protection involved too. If you aren't good, then you won't try and fail and have a bruised ego. But this really doesn't protect at all, because then the sphere in which you are allowed to be good is so limited. That's why I feel ambivalent about ideas that you should dare to fail at things. There is a good message here... except that we keep ourselves back Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09371893596402673898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-54265775296465527812018-03-17T16:07:42.639-05:002018-03-17T16:07:42.639-05:00I was raised with the idea that you should not try...I was raised with the idea that you should not try to get good at what you did recreationally. This was well intentioned -- enjoyment was to be enjoyment, not work. But it felt like a limitation, because one does improve at what one practices (if one does it with interest). I still struggle with this in everything, don't try to get good because you either can't (you don't have enough Leslie B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10020364290777579994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-13924354736439491622018-03-16T12:42:28.375-05:002018-03-16T12:42:28.375-05:00I don't mean self-acceptance as complacency. ...I don't mean self-acceptance as complacency. I'm all for lifting self-imposed limitations. But this means I have to accept that I will be bad at something for a time before I get good at it. Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09371893596402673898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-23052400061519334192018-03-16T12:02:44.058-05:002018-03-16T12:02:44.058-05:00Isn't your lack of total self-acceptance the s...Isn't your lack of total self-acceptance the source of your achievement, though? Students, for instance, stun me all the time by saying placidly "I'm just not good at languages / writing / reading/ public speaking, etc." And it doesn't matter what I suggest to improve their skills because they have accepted their limitations and are very much at peace with them. The result Clarissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11027134365260069910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-56846792878388805322018-03-14T16:20:49.024-05:002018-03-14T16:20:49.024-05:00I would say you don't improve if you don't...I would say you don't improve if you don't love yourself where you are. I say that to language students all the time, and it's obvious: be proud of what you know, show it off, use it, and you'll find you learn more.<br /><br />I am trying this. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-86719091621106976582018-03-13T20:24:23.838-05:002018-03-13T20:24:23.838-05:00In the sense that certain things I do are self-sab...In the sense that certain things I do are self-sabotaging and go both against self-acceptance and the razor's edge. So if I want to eliminate clutter that is both for higher efficiency of getting things done but also a higher level of self-care, not to be surrounded by clutter. Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09371893596402673898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-80036040804991313172018-03-13T20:22:43.859-05:002018-03-13T20:22:43.859-05:00I don't know the book. I thought I was inventi...I don't know the book. I thought I was inventing that phrase though I've probably heard it from other people. Jonathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09371893596402673898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1055932257464975902.post-74845058803211033312018-03-13T19:59:53.365-05:002018-03-13T19:59:53.365-05:00So, you're referring to the Tara Brach book, r...So, you're referring to the Tara Brach book, radical self-acceptance? It's one of the few self-helpy type books I've ever sort of liked.<br /><br />I do think of improving skills, work, etc. as improvement of those things, not of self. So radical self-acceptance wouldn't conflict with razor's edge.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com