Life hack for today: it's not about you. You live in your own skin, and have never been out of it. So it's natural for you to orient other events to your own self. Most events, though, are not primarily about you. That's the filter you see them through, but most things do not have you as their intended recipient. You'll know when it's about you, because it might have your name on it.
Even then, don't be too sure. Even your intimate partner's complaint might not really be about you, but about her father or her own life. The parking ticket you got has your license plate number on it, and you have to pay it, but it isn't about you, because the parking guy just saw your car and an expired meter, nothing more.
Since it's not about you, you don't have to involve yourself in it. You can relax about it.